Some clients ask where I find “past life” info in a birth chart. Suggestions can be gleaned from the North Node/South Node axis. I consider the North Node “the direction you aim to grow and evolve the most in this life.” The South Node is what I regard as “the stuff you already know.” If you choose to believe in reincarnation (and I do), this is the where I look for the essentials. It is limited information and I suspect reincarnation is a bit more involved.
Then there is the topic of soulmates. Many clients want to find their soulmate. And they seem to feel it is only one particular person, out there, somewhere. I think of the lyrics to Wreckless Eric’s song Whole Wide World — When I was a young boy/My mama said to me/There’s only one girl in the world for you/And she probably lives in Tahiti. Only one? Terrible odds.
We ought to expand our definition and concept of soulmates. I think we reincarnate in extended groups, much like a theatrical repertoire company has a group of actors that don’t always appear in every play. I don’t think we spend all our lives with every soulmate, every time. Maybe that guy you knew for only a few months was there to steer you in a certain direction, and that was it. That was his job this time around as your soulmate. Perhaps he pointed you in a direction that changed your life. Or maybe you were there to steer him. Maybe your best girlfriend in this life was your uncle last time, someone who you once saved from drowning in the 1700s, and your life-long sworn enemy during the 12th century? And maybe, even though you married 3x in this life, every one of those spouses was one of your soulmates.
So this brings us to MY definition of karma. I don’t buy “punishment” karma. If we have to pay for all our mistakes in a past life, it’s a miracle any of us reincarnate as anything more evolved than bacteria. Maybe in my last life I was a paramecium?
I see karma as various educational and experiential paths our higher selves choose to explore. Last time around I was a social-climbing Victorian Era cad. Some time before that I was a happy single mother in an era when that made me a social outcast.
Think of each life as if it was a major in college. This time around you may be exploring family relationships. Next time, perhaps positions of social power? Maybe in some lives, you take a light course load. Maybe in another one, you choose to be on the karma fast track for accelerated learning. We all know people like this. I have a friend who has had at least 5 careers, mastered them all, lived in 8 or 9 places in three different countries and has married the same man twice. And she ain’t done yet. I hope next time around she coasts a little. Just keeping up with her exhausts me.
So everybody take a nice deep breath.
Relax. Open up.
We have an extended family of soulmates. You will find the ones you need, when you need them, this time around. And next time, too.
We have many options in our past, current and future lives. Do the best you can, take a few risks and forgive yourself for the mistakes you make.