Self-sacrifice is a useless concept. As an astrologer I see each person as a unique individual with distinctive skills and abilities. Every birth chart is different, but even if people are born at the same time, date and year in the same hospital, they will still exercise free will in how they choose manifest their innate talents.
And I believe each person’s uniqueness should fit into the big picture exactly as they are. Each piece of a jigsaw puzzle is unique, and when each piece adds its unique qualities to all the other pieces, something much larger is created, while still maintaining the shape and integrity of each individual component. Each piece is not sacrificing itself to serve the larger goal, but finding the way its particular size and shape can serve the big picture. And serve is the word I prefer to “self-sacrifice.” Every person serves society best by applying his or her natural gifts to society. The motto “think globally, act locally” fits well here. It is easy to see how a doctor or accountant or policeman serves society, but ultimately we all serve, whether or not it is obvious.
And I carry these same concepts with me when I look at one-to-one relationships in astrological charts. My first and best advice to any client asking me about their love life is “Work on yourself.” The healthier you can be, the clearer you see yourself and the more evolved you are, the easier it is to recognize love in your life.
Many times I have clients who claim, “I did everything he/she wanted. Why didn’t it work out?” If you sacrificed all of yourself to please your partner, who was there for your partner to love? Did they ever get a chance to meet you, get to know you? Were you hiding in plain sight?
We all carry past baggage with us. We may be fantasizing about what an ideal partner is supposed to be. We may be holding on to scars received from previous relationships. But when you meet someone new, you must strive to see past your presumptions. If someone loves you, or if you love someone, that love has to be all encompassing. Love is not blind, but it is accepting. And love is a kind of contemplation, a focus, about another person. When you love someone, you keep that person in your heart all the time. The faults they may have do not repel you. They are all the components of that person, and even the so-called faults are part of them. You love them regardless. I don’t feel this implies you don’t wish a loved one to grow and evolve and improve… but who they are is more important than what you think they should be. And love may compel you to serve the person you love, but serve and support them in the way only you uniquely can. Give as only you can give.
So… no to self-sacrifice, because how can you serve and honor and love someone if you think it is ok to sacrifice your self to do so?